Graham's Birth Story

The day I had Graham, I left the house to get groceries around 9:00 in the morning. I remember I didn't feel like getting dressed and couldn't find much that fit me anymore. I wore Casey's long john shirt and squeezed one more time into my maternity skinny jeans. I was 39 weeks 5 days pregnant.

I snapped this photo for Instagram that day :)




























The day before,  I had my check up with my midwife, Brande. We talked and wondered about when the baby would come. I could feel it was soon, just didn't know when! My midwife's birth assistant, Malory, had just gotten back from vacation that week. I really wanted Malory here because she had been at Josey's birth. I couldn't picture having a baby without either of them :)


Good thing Malory came back! Because the next day, as soon I was done unloading groceries, my water broke. I had gone upstairs to use the bathroom and put my comfortable yoga pants back on, as I was pushing and pulling to get out of my skinny jeans and hurry to go pee, a gush of water came out. I didn't know if I had peed my pants or if this was really it. I called my Mom and asked her if I was nuts, because I really could have just peed my pants! Soon after, more like 30 seconds, I was sure it was my water. I got off the phone and left my midwife a text and voicemail. She soon got back to me and made preparations to be on her way to my house when I needed her. I tried calling Casey a few times to let him know labor had started. He was ice fishing with Grandpa and his phone was dead. So I left him a goofy "Hey! My water broke!" message. He got back to me about 15-20 minutes later and came home right away. My mother-in-law, Kathy, wanted to be here when the baby was born so I let her know and she was immediately on her way to be here with us. So everyone was notified and on track to being here!

My labor had hardly started yet... Josey and I played in her room a bit and I started packing her a little bag. She was pretty hyper cause she could feel the excitement/anticipation in the room. Soon after Casey came home my sister in law came over to pick Josey up. It was around then that I started feeling labor a bit more I think around 4:00PM.

Around 6 I had talked to my midwife again and told her to be here around 8:00PM cause I felt like it'd be a bit longer until stuff really got going. By the time Brande and Malory came I was at the stage that I call "Not Smiling". I could still move around, walk, talk and stuff but had to stop and concentrate on each contraction as it came. Everyone had been there for about an hour or so when I decided to go upstairs with Casey. About maybe 2 contractions after I had gone upstairs things got intense. It was like the quiet of my room and comfort of my bed really kicked things in. I asked for Casey to get Brande to check me cause I had had a few really strong contractions that did a lot of work. Once they came up to check me, I told them I changed my mind and didn't want to be checked. (indecisive much?) I knew things had really started working, but decided that I didn't want to know how far I had to go. I didn't want to measure how long it was taking or be discouraged. I mean, labor was going! Kicking right in and becoming intense. But I knew I wasn't at the end yet.

After working around my bed, on the yoga ball, and moving around a whole lot Brande suggested a warm shower. I went into the shower with the yoga ball to lean on for support. The hot water running over my back felt SO good. And the water was distracting from the contractions that were beginning to grab my entire body. I started crying a bit and started to really go deep into prayer. I kept asking Jesus to be there with me and to help my body do what He had made it to do, and to hold me and the baby in His arms. There were also some more intense prayers of me asking God to just let the baby come already, no matter how bad, just let the baby come out!

Once I got out of the shower I don't remember too much. I did a lot of moving around from the bed to the bathroom, to the ball, to rocking on my hands and knees. I am the type where I don't really want to be talked to that much when I'm in labor or to hear noises of phones. I want to fully concentrate on each contraction. I also mostly want to be alone, but not FEEL alone at the same time. I told my mother in law that she had to be quiet and I was serious, haha. It's funny now, but I couldn't laugh anymore at the time, her intent was to lighten the mood. Poor Kathy! My husband did a bit of counter pressure with his fists on my back during contractions, which helps so much! He also played poker on his phone next to me, I think it's just him not knowing what to do, kind of like a nervous activity... being present next to me but still in the background at the same time. But his phone HAD to be quiet. With my contractions I work on relaxing my shoulders, leaving my mouth open a bit with my jaw loose, exhaling slowly. Words I read in an Ina May Gaskin book ran through my head "Open like a budding rose flower, layer by layer.", and words about her sphincter law "Stay loose, don't tighten up." I tried to welcome each contraction, this was one down, this was progress, let it do its work. I'm not totally perfect at this. I would tighten up with pain during some contractions and could tell a difference in my progress. Your body progresses much better when you're relaxed. Moving around a lot helps too. It's like your searching for a comfy spot. I said out loud a lot "I need to move", "This isn't working right now", or "I don't know WHAT I want". I remember one time saying "What do I do!?!" when I felt like I couldn't take it anymore. I got really frustrated with the yoga ball a few times and pushed it angrily across the room, then later I would wonder where it went. Haha. Throughout this labor until the end my contractions were about 5 minutes apart. Which was frustrating for me because I wanted it to go, yet this was also kind of nice because I got a long break between contractions for rest.

After a bit I could start to feel I was almost there! Late into labor there was a small stall in contractions. My midwife helped me push against my cervix because there was a little that the baby had a hard time moving his head past. We worked through that for what felt like a long time and once the babies head was past, Brande told me "You're ready to go! The baby is ready to be here! You can push when you feel ready!" Oh, sweet wonderful words to hear in labor! I still had a little sense of humor and sarcastically asked Brande if that meant I was fully dilated. Since I hadn't wanted to be checked for progress throughout labor. I moved to my bed maybe had two to three more contractions and started pushing. I remember saying out loud to myself "I can do this!" In my head I was still in constant prayer. I don't even know what I was really praying, but just felt God's presence with me. Brande and Malory had me come onto the birth stool when the baby was close to being here. Right before Graham was born Brande placed my hand on his head. This is something that I never really would say that I wanted to do, but it helped SO much! There is a reason people do this. It was like something clicked in my body and head. I pushed a few more times and my sweet baby was here!

Hallelujah! I did it! I said so happy aloud "I DID IT!" Then I immediately said "That wasn't so bad!" Haha. Ten minutes prior I would have had a very different opinion! My sweet baby was placed on my chest and the announcement was made that "It's a BOY!!!" Oh, what a joy! My mother in law said that Casey did a little fist pump when Brande said boy. We didn't care if it was a boy or girl and would have had just as much joy with a girl, yet it was fun to find we now had a little girl AND a little boy :) We had decided on the name Graham for our son. We hadn't really talked about a middle name too much, but we decided on Carl, after Casey's late Grandpa Carl Hamann. Casey's other Grandpa had an older brother named Carl as well, so it was a good family name.

I remember right after Graham was born he pretty much lifted his head on his own and made eye contact with me. This is the sweetest memory, it almost brings tears to my eyes. Right after I had Josey she did the same, just calmly making eye contact with me almost like sweetly saying "Hello my Mommy! I'm here!". What a gift! I think it's so precious that both of them did this. I also love seeing Casey hold his babies for the first time. It's so sweet. He has taken his shirt off both times for skin to skin and he just cuddles his babies up in his big arms, brings them close, and says hi.

This time, I was at home. Right where I wanted to be :) Graham nursed almost right off the bat. After everything was finished and calmed down, I had something to eat, stared in wonder at my new little love, then curled up around Graham with Casey next to me and we went to sleep.

Graham Carl McCausland

2:21AM January 26, 2013

8lbs, 21inches long

Happy to have you here buddy :)

My Nursing Story (so far)

My first experience with nursing was a few hours after Josey was born.. a nurse was trying to shove my breast into my babies mouth. Josey wouldn't latch. I had a very long labor with Josey and was so completely exhausted I ended up falling asleep while the nurse was doing this to me. What happened wasn't right on many levels. NOT a pleasant experience at all.

Once my sweet baby did latch I had no idea how I would nurse her. I never knew how hard a baby could suckle! I was shocked! We were sent home with instructions of nursing her every 1-2 hours waking her up if needed and breaking off after 15-20min and trying the next side. Needless to say... a few days later I was completely exhausted, again. I made the decision to wait about 2 1/2 to 3 hours for every feeding, and still broke off after 15-20 min. When Josey was 10 days old she bit me so bad that the tip of my breast was damaged on one side. I can't begin to tell you how bad this hurts. Even though this happened to me I still have no idea how such a tiny baby could do that, or bite SO hard.

Within a few days I got a fever and didn't know why. Suddenly nursing hurt so bad it made me feel delusional. I have never felt more sick in my life. I found out that I had mastitis. I kicked up the amount of water I was drinking, took extra vit c, massage with warm heat or in a warm shower or bath. Tried to nurse often. Josey had to break the scab from the bite every time she nursed (cause I was switching). Weirdly enough, the mastitis was gone within a few days. Little did I know that this would be one of five terrible flare ups of mastitis in 7 1/2 weeks. The next 4 times I got mastitis I had prescription and it would fade for a week or so and come back just as horrible as the last. I can tell you this, I WOULD RATHER HAVE A BABY AGAIN, THAN BE IN THE PAIN OF MASTITIS. Mark my words! I don't know how to describe it to you. I have never cried so much out of sheer pain and frustration than in those weeks. I felt SO bad. I wanted to nurse my baby so bad and be successful at it. I was defeated.

My nursing journey sadly ended at only 7 1/2 weeks with Josey. My bitten left side that kept getting infected waved the white flag of surrender and stopped producing milk. After weeks of trying, crying, appointments, different prescriptions, and boob ultrasounds it was D-O-N-E. So swift and final. When I weaned Josey nothing even filled up on the "sick side".

Josey was always happy and healthy throughout this journey. And she liked eating so much she hardly blinked when she had her first formula bottle. Um, which broke my heart by the way. Stinker.

We used Enfamil for most of the first 6 months. When she was a bit older I was at Sam's Club and compared ingredients to their brand and Enfamil, its the same thing... So to save some money we switched to their brand and never looked back. I think it was about $200-$300 a month for formula depending on what brand I grabbed.

I now have a 9 weeks old son, Graham. His nursing journey has been a bit different. He ate pretty much right after he was born, and oh boy did he want to eat a lot! This time I am alternating sides with each feeding. No switching for one feeding, unless he's still hungry after emptying one side. This method works well for me so I fully know that he is emptying each side and helps me prevent mastitis. This is my opinion, but I feel that when babies nurse this way they won't miss any of the nutrient hind milk, and have a better eating experience without being taken off suddenly. Since I've had Graham I've also been nursing on demand. Any nursing period is a lot of work, but nursing on demand is not the workload that I had pictured in my head. Quite the opposite, actually.

About 2 weeks or so after Graham was born I got mastitis, and kicked it within 24hrs without a prescription. I was terrified!!! And super paranoid! When Graham was about 3 1/2 weeks I got mastitis again and it was gone in 24hrs. This time, in my mind, I made the best nursing related decision ever and called a lactation consultant for an in home visit. During this home visit I learned SO much! I was actually doing a lot of things right with latching which was one of my big concerns. We found out that Graham was tongue tied all the way to the tip of his mouth. This was causing him to do short frequent nursing sessions because he was working so hard to suck he'd get tired. Also, since he had a hard time sucking, he had a hard time finishing each side.

My lactation consultant recommended some chiropractic work to be done on Graham and his tongue to be cut by a local dentist who uses a water laser. The chiropractor was for all the tension Graham had in his neck, jaw, and shoulders from working so hard to nurse. He also used to hold his head looking up at the ceiling all the time from this tension. Since we've gotten this adjusted, he hasn't held his head funky or been completely tense while eating.

We got Graham's tongue cut soon after the lactation consultant visit. We really wanted to do the water laser because the dentist would have a better chance of completely fixing the problem and not just doing one snip. Graham did end up having one of the most "tied" tongues the dentist had seen in awhile. He had to have tissue separated further back in his mouth, which wouldn't really have been fixed had we had his tongue cut the old way. We had a hard time after Graham had his tongue cut because we had to start all over with nursing. A few days after his tongue was cut, Graham refused to nurse for almost a day and a half. I called the lactation consultant and used her recommendations to do skin to skin like when he was just born and he finally nursed again. It was slow progress to get back on track with nursing. It took almost two weeks to fully be regular again.

Now Graham is 9 weeks old and gaining weight and eating like it's no ones business! We are still doing on demand, which translates into about every 2 1/2 to 3 hours anyways. Well, by this age. I think its all around easier on demand. With my first I was glued to my watch or the clock, now I don't even glance at them. It's more simplified now.

If I could give any advice... Please please call a lactation consultant if you have ANY problem! Have her come to your house, or go in for an appointment with her. Don't be afraid to ask questions. It doesn't have to be a big issue for a consult. They're there to help Mom's with all this stuff, it's their job!

And, hey... sometimes breastfeeding doesn't work out. I definitely learned that with my first. It doesn't make you an less of a Mom or any of that. Don't beat yourself up. Breast is best. I agree wholeheartedly, but I'm also thankful that formula is here for when it doesn't work out.

That said, I still will go through many lengths to be able to breastfeed.

We'll see how things go with my second baby! I hope to nurse him for awhile. I don't know how long... He's still a tiny baby so I'm not really concerned with that yet. Maybe if he still wants to nurse before bed when he's 1 1/2 that's totally fine with me. Some Mom's may think that's too soon, some may think that's too long. I'll just see how it goes and make my decisions when I get to that bridge.

I hope to post again on natural mastitis remedies and all sorts of info ;) It may take me a bit, but I want it all written down and easy to share!

Happy parenting!

Home Sweet Home

This is the home we bought!! I took these pictures a few months ago on my phone, during the home inspection. We are so happy to have a place to call our own!

Front of house

Back of house. Casey is using the skyscraper old tv antenna as a ladder to the roof. 

Big backyard... Soon to be fenced. Note: The trailer house, and boards on the window of the other blue house, are not an accurate representation of the neighborhood we live in. ;) 

This is the breezeway! I love our breezeway! It connects the back entrance to the house and the garage. That means no rainstorm or blizzard conditions while taking baby and groceries in! Yay!

The Garage

In the breezeway.. How much do you love my old garage door?! I think it's so adorable!

In the breezeway looking out to the driveway.

Now, to the basement!

Looking down from kitchen at the back entry.

In the basement, we have this wood paneled room with saloon doors. Soon to be the man cave of Casey's dreams.

Blurry basement picture (sorry) I would love to make this space a family room someday! There is a random toilet in the corner. Hopefully to be used by the men as they are visiting the man cave ;) 

Blurry basement picture showing storage. At this point in the picture taking, Josey was crying and chasing me!

Here's the kitchen! It's all brand new! I'm also excited to pick out the cabinet hardware myself!

Walk-in pantry underneath the stairs! I can now justify huge Sam's Club trips!

Sunny little laundry room off of kitchen

This is the dining area. We love the open floor plan!

Windows, windows everywhere! Yay!

Living Area

Third bedroom, we are using this as an office and guest room.

Main floor bathroom. Again, everything is brand new!

Josey's Room

She was already enjoying her two closets. I love all the old original woodwork and doors here.

Upstairs! The attic was converted to a master bedroom. One door leads to a bathroom, the other leads to a walk-in closet.

More bedroom.

Master Bathroom

There's our new home!

My family has been living in our new house almost three weeks now. We are settling in, and getting everything put away. My parents, some siblings, and extended family came to visit and help move in. We made quick work of it. Thank you everyone!

We have already done a few projects on the house! We redid the front porch, and built a folding table and shelves in the laundry room. Next we are installing a range hood, maybe a fun backsplash, building a fence, putting in a back patio, and building our own smoker! 

We'll see how soon anything happens, but Casey, Josey and I, are definitely enjoying ourselves in our home sweet home!

A Cooking Tip On Rice

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Ah, rice. 

Rice is in so many dishes and a great side to many meals. But for the past few months (ok, years) I have SUCKED at cooking it. My rice is always soggy or sticking to the pan. Maybe because I too often follow package directions. I have fiddled with my rice making recipes and haven't come up with anything good. I am a little intimidated by it cause I never know how it will turn out. Rice something I definitely don't make for dinner if we have company coming over.

Want your rice to look like this!?! I do!

 

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So fluffy and nice!

Yesterday, I found out there is a such thing as the "pasta method" for cooking your rice. It's very easy! I didn't take a picture, but my rice turned out like the picture above. (If not better, ha) I am just a LITTLE excited about this!

This is what I did:

-Put a big pot of water on the stove and set to boil. I used my soup pot and filled it a little under halfway, so that's probably around 8 cups of water.

-Once the water is boiling, just pour 1/2 cup of white rice into the pot. 

-Let it cook, uncovered, for 13 minutes 

-Drain well

-(If you are anything like me) You now have the nicest looking rice you've ever made, ready to enjoy for dinner!

That's it! I know, I was freaked out to do it. I am more of a fan of brown rice than white. I don't know how long it would take to cook the brown, but I'm going to be doing some experimenting in the kitchen and let you know. 

Easter 2012

I thought I would share some verses/words about Easter. I couldn't choose just one. 

"Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God.

 In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus."

--Romans 6:8-11

"But God raised him from the dead, freeing him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for death to keep its hold on him."
-- Acts 2:24 NIV

"Now let the heavens be joyful,
Let earth her song begin:
Let the round world keep triumph,
And all that is therein;
Invisible and visible,
Their notes let all things blend,
For Christ the Lord is risen
Our joy that hath no end."
-- John of Damascus

 ( My sister in law took these pictures on Sunday. I love them! )

P.S. If you noticed..Yes, Josey will be a flower girl on 9-22-12!! We're excited!

We had a great Easter weekend. Dinner with Josey's Grandpa on Saturday night, and spending time with family in Quincy for Easter Sunday. This past weekend was full of family, laughter, and food!

Hope you and your families had a blessed Easter!

Growing Pains

As the days go by my little girl grows and grows, and grows.

The tears get bigger; the screams, louder...

The attitude changes...

Imagination is endless...

And new firsts line up all ready to be enjoyed...

Made in U.S.A.

I've been trying to be more conscious about the things I buy lately, I want to buy things made in America. I am not 100% hardcore devoted to this, but when I have a choice I really like to try to choose those items.

I'm going to make a list of great things I've found, and of products I've always loved, but haven't ever turned the box over to check if it's Made in USA. I hope to keep finding tons more!

Burt's Bees - Lovely lovely products and now you have a better excuse to spend that extra money on it!

Boudreax's Butt Paste and all Boudreax products.

Arbonne - Lovely make-up, skincare, and baby lines. I use their baby stuff.

Baby Bjorn Potty Chair - Learned this as Josey was dragging her chair all over the bathroom :)

Green Toys - Company that makes toys out of recycled materials. We have a cute kitchen set!

Saltwater Sandals - I didn't know this, until I recently got Josey some sandals for the summer

Some West Elm furniture is assembled in the USA - Hmm, good to know. I like their stuff!

CHI flat iron - VERY nice flat iron! Does a great job! Gorgeous gorgeous hair! CHI also offers other products made here at home!

Sam's Club cookie sheets - I really, really, like my cookie sheets. I also feel like Sam's Club (and Walmart) does a good job trying to keep Made in USA products in their stores.

Nordic Ware- an array of kitchen products

Pyrex- Glass bakeware

Lenox- Fine China

Hudson Jeans- These are OH so cute. I want a pair. Look them up, YOU will want a pair! Maybe this can be my excuse to splurge... maybe.

This is just a short list. Most of this is stuff I've noticed around my house. I like to try to keep my eyes open to where things are made, especially in this economy!

Man, all this wants me to shout out a big ol'

"AMERICA!!!"

I wish I could type that the way my older brother shouts it ;)

Something like "AMEEERRRICAAAAA!!" With a Texan twist...

Haha, have a good day!

Add to the list in comments, I want to keep finding stuff!!

5, 6, Pick Up Sticks

Yesterday it was so nice and warm!

So warm, that there were a few lawnmowers and weed wackers heard around the neighborhood. As my husband and I were sitting outside, we were forced to look at how our yard came through the winter. The lot our house is on has about 20 to many pine trees, and there were branches scattered all through the yard. So, we got Josey's pink John Deer wagon out and picked up sticks.

Josey joined in the fun with the most adorable shorts on. We loved to see her cute legs!

Josey loves to be outside! She spends a lot of her time kicking through the dirt and shouting "Hi" at any jogger or car that goes by.

In between loads of sticks, Josey got to ride in the wagon. She did get a little scrape on her knee, but she smiled through that whole episode.

Josey loves to be outside! Absolutely loves it. So much, that it is always really embarrassing to take her inside. It sounds like she's getting tortured! Kicking and screaming and her face is a few shades past the point of red. I calmed Josey down with her next favorite thing which is taking a bath. This summer I see a lot of hours playing outside digging around in the dirt, stroller rides, bike rides, and lots of trips to the town pool. I can't wait!

Beautiful- Phil Wickham

I really enjoy listening to this song, it's good thinking music.

So just put your feet up, relax, and listen to the words!

Here's the lyrics. I especially like the last verse :)

I see Your face in every sunrise
The colors of the morning are inside Your eyes
The world awakens in the light of the day
I look up to the sky and say 
You’re beautiful

I see Your power in the moonlit night
Where planets are in motion and galaxies are bright
We are amazed in the light of the stars
It’s all proclaiming who You are
You’re beautiful, You're beautiful

I see you there hanging on a tree
You bled and then you died and then you rose again for me
Now you are sitting on Your heavenly throne
Soon we will be coming home
You’re beautiful, you're beautiful

When we arrive at eternity’s shore
Where death is just a memory and tears are no more
We’ll enter in as the wedding bells ring 
Your bride will come together and we’ll sing
You’re beautiful, You're beautiful, You're beautiful

I see Your face, You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You're beautiful
I see Your face, You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You're beautiful
I see Your face, I see Your face
I see Your face, You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful

Scatter-Brained Thoughts

We were looking at buying a house these past few weeks. We are not anymore. It was a foreclosure, we had an offer pending on the home inspection. After the home inspection, we wrestled with the giant amount of work needed on the house, and decided it wasn't for us. Whew! That took a lot out of us.

Somewhere in those few weeks our computer charger broke. The computer went dead fast, with no way to charge it back up. AGH! So no computer for me, or for Casey's homework.

And now, after hearing weird sounds and vibrations from the truck whenever we shift, the truck will be in the shop for about 5 days. Thought it was a U-joint on the back of the truck going bad, turned out to be a transfer case issue. We caught it early, so it should be an easy fix, fingers crossed. You know, just in case you were wondering...

In the words of my Mom, "There's always something!"

Josey is just adorable, as always. :) She is full of gibberish and dancing to any music that plays. Josey carries a purse around the house with her arm straight up in the air, pretending that she's "going somewhere" and "Oh, so busy". This stage is awesome! At the same time, I see the beginnings of a little girl looking up at me, and not a baby anymore. Josey is still really big into cuddling with a bottle in the morning, so that makes me happy.

This makes me laugh. This picture is one of Josey's concerts in full swing. She's dancing and singing on the top of her lungs into her play microphone. I just love how she has her pj's on and her Daddy's hat on backwards. I think this was about 8:30 in the morning the other day haha!

Well, that's kind of what's going on out here in Illinois :) Have a good day!